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 I will try to change a cool Person … No angry , No tension at all ..!

Anger: it’s a natural response to threats and attacks, injustice and disappointment. Anger is a powerful emotion and releasing the pressure that builds inside you can be essential to deal with problems and move on. But if anger isn’t dealt with in a healthy way, it can have a significant effect on your daily life, relationships, achievements and mental well-being. Maybe it started with your friend insulting you, or an opposing player in the big game gave you a nasty bruise, or maybe your parents wouldn’t let you go out on a school night with your friends. There are many reasons why we get angry. An important part of growing up is learning to deal with anger so that it doesn’t snowball into hurting yourself or others.

Anger is one of the most basic human emotions. It is a physical and mental response to a threat or to harm done in the past. Anger takes many different forms from irritation to blinding rage or resentment that festers over many years.

Reasons for getting angry include:

  •  Most lovable person insulting you ( friend/ classmate /roommate/ relations)
  •  Facing a threat to ourselves or our loved ones.
  •  Being verbally or physically assaulted.
  •  Suffering a blow to our self-esteem or our place within a social group.
  •  Being interrupted when pursuing a goal.
  •  Losing out when money is at stake.
  •  Someone going against a principle that we consider important.
  •  Having our property mistreated.

People often express their anger verbally. They may

  •  Bombard someone with hostile questions, and use dramatic words exaggerate the impact on them of someone else’s action.
  •  Some people who are angry get their own back indirectly by making other people feel guilty and playing on that guilt. Others develop a cynical attitude and constantly criticize everything, but never address problems constructively.
  •  Some people internalize their anger. They may be seething inside and may physically shake, but they don’t show their anger in the way they behave  when they are around other people.
  •  People who internalize their anger may self harm when they are angry as a way of coping with intense feelings they can’t express another way. This may give temporary relief from the angry feelings, but it doesn’t solve the problems in the long-term.

When you feel the first wavelet of anger boiling up inside you, pause for a moment. Think about what has made you angry, think about the consequences of exploding in a rage and then choose how to respond.

  •  If you feel the urge to throw something or hit out, remove yourself from the situation and try taking it out on something soft like a cushion that you won’t damage and which won’t hurt you.
  •  Talk yourself down – imagine what your calmest friend would say to you and give yourself the same advice.
  •  Distract yourself or take yourself out of the situation that made you angry – read a magazine, do a crossword, listen to soothing music, go for a walk.
  •  Pour out how you feel in writing or redirect your energy into another creative activity .

In my openion,  Anger is an expression of love, or an appeal for love. This is the most common. The anger here could come from a feeling of being betrayed, rejected, insulted, unappreciated or abandoned. An Angry person never hate you, he/she more loves and caring  you